How do you show love to your spouse?
While a couple dates, it is so easy to show love. The relationship blossoms, sex is good and often, each person goes out of their way to do something nice for each other, without any question and everything is “great!”
It seems like after marriage, the romance, passion and doing things out of kindness fades. Why is that? Is it because of work gets in the way, the kids get in the way, each truly sees the “negatives” in each other,, or what?
Marriage is work and it is a decision that a person needs to make daily about their love for their spouse, no matter what is going on.
What can be done? Look at the reasons why you fell in love with your spouse and write them down. Ask yourself how you can show you love your spouse today. What changes in your schedule you can make so you have time with your spouse. What changes can you make to help you show love to your spouse?
If your not loving your spouse in the best possible way today that you loved him/her before, the change can start with you. You can do the above things that are listed and then also look within yourself, how you can make some changes.
How do you greet your spouse when he/she comes home? The way we greet each other sets the tone for the rest of the day. So, if we greet our spouse with a list of complaints, then that will definitely set a tone that will not make everyone happy and it could add more stress or negativity.
What about how you respond to your spouse? Is there an angry response, nagging or a poor attitude? That can also set a nasty tone for the day.
In order for the love in a marriage to be similar to what it was in the beginning, changing how we respond, act and have a healthier attitude will help change the tone in our relationship. We can’t expect our spouse to change if we are unwilling to change ourselves.
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