Marriage is a partnership. Two people came together, bringing all different sorts of wonderful and unique aspects into the marriage.

Each individual has their traits, personalities, frustration and limitations that are brought to the marriage. Combining the differences from the wife and husband can create a great marriage or a really difficult one.

Marriage is a partnership. Takes both the husband and wife to create a good marriage.

While dating, each person puts the other before themselves. Communication is open, expressive, a lot of listening happens because each wants to know about the other person.

The man and woman are both held in high regard for each other and the little faults that the person may have is overlooked.

Then comes the wedding and the honeymoon. All is still going strong, Love is in the air!

Things change! What happened??

Well, this is where it seems that all the wonderful things that you saw about your spouse has been put on the backside and the little things that were overlooked while dating are more “important” then the love you may share. The love is still there, but not as focused on as the negatives.

In this stage, couples will either push each other away through hurt, anger, resentment; have an affair to get the “feelings” back; not do anything about the marriage or work through it.

This post will be about what wives do out of their hurt, anger or frustration that may push their husbands away, not closer to them.

1. When complacency in marriage happens, with routines: the wife may end up doing more than her husband. Her reason may be “My husband doesn’t do anything, so I have to!” The wife may do everything, complain about it, but still do everything. The husband may feel hurt and less of a man because he is not part of the partnership; he is not needing to do his share od duties, not being a leader. A man needs to feel respected in himself and in his marriage. When you were dating, he could do no wrong and he did have your respect. Something happened. When men do not have respect or being the leader in the home, he may feel that he is worthless and not wanting to put his heart into the marriage.

2. Nagging. He married you, not your mother or even his own mother!
The more a man is nagged, the less respect he feels, the further away he moves from involviing himself in the marriage. Women may nag because the husband is not doing something that is asked, needs to be done or fear that things will not be done. Nagging will not help your husband feel really attracted to you. You did not nag him when you were dating, so why now?

3. Lack of sex. Men are visual individuals and are stimulated by a woman’s body. I know there are times when you do not want sex and intimacy is what women need, but we are talking about the men here!
I am not saying that when a man does not have sex, he will immediately turn to porn or other women but the lack of sexual connection can push a husband away, create resentment, rejection or also less of a man.

Okay, I have said some difficult things for a woman to accept. I am not saying that it is a woman’s fault for a failed marriage. What I said in the beginning, marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. It takes TWO! This was to point out minimum of 3 aspects that can push a husband away from their spouse and not closer.

If you, the wife, does these things, then do the following:

1. Acknowledge that you do not allow or help your husband do his part in the marriage. Acknowledge that you nag him on doing chores, spend time at home or him not complimenting you. Acknowledge that you may withhold sex when you are angry, hurt or frustrated with your husband or your marriage.

2. Ask your husband for forgiveness. Be sincere. Forgive yourself too!

3. Remember what you loved about your husband while you were dating and remember how you still love him.

4. Accept your differences: in your personalities, desires and needs and how you relate to each other.

5. Plan together how you both are going to help put your marriage back on track. Make a choice to daily work on your marriage.

Marriage is a partnership and takes 2 people!