The way you think of any situation determines the way that situation will affect you. When you think of something as negative or problematic, you will fee negative about it. When you see something positive, as an opportunity, as a blessing in disguise, as something that will ultimately be for your good, then you will feel good about it.
I thought this thought was great and it makes sense. It comes from the book: Conversations with Yourself by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin.
So, after the chocolates have been eaten, your loved one showered you with love and affection, what happens next? He/she may have forgotten to do some things you’ve listed but yesterday was Valentine’s Day so things were overlooked. Now it’s the Day after, what are you going to focus on?
I know there are things that need and must get done like: preparing dinner, getting things ready for the new week, changing a diaper or some other “musts” but other than that, are there areas that you can just let go of?
I am not going to be long today, but Valentine’s Day does not have to be just one day out of the year, but every day can be it. What are you going to focus on? How are you going to spend your days after?
Who do you love? Valentine’s Day may come once a year and is celebrated by all, but what about the other 364 days of the year? Are you willing and able to show love to someone on a daily basis? Love may not always be hugging, kissing or sex with the person you love, but can also be shown in other ways.
Some ways to show love to another (even a complete stranger):smile to anyone; show kindness by helping a person with something; ask what you can do for another with no strings attached; thank them for being who they are; treat them with respect; say positive things about them and mean it; do their chores for a day with a smile; if they aren’t a stranger- tell the person you love them, no matter what; make them feel important; listen to them.
There are many other ways to show love or kindness to a person even if it’s a total stranger. We all want to be loved and appreciated. It’s so easy and does not need to cost anything, except your time and that does not have to be much. A little does go a long way… so make every day Valentine’s Day!
What do you believe in? Do you believe that you cause things to happen or do you make things to happen? Do you believe in your fears and anxieties or believe that there is nothing wrong with you but with everyone else? Do you tell yourself false truths or reinforce what others say to you about you?
You can make up your mind to listen to what others say or not. If someone is telling you to move out of the way because something could fall on you, then it’s okay to listen and move! LOL
What I am talking about is when a person calls you a bad word, or something hurtful, you can believe it or not.
Who we are is built from what we do, what we say about ourselves, what is done to us and what others say about us.
You may need to be clear on what is true and what is not. If you forget something, someone may say you are forgetful, but are you really? Look at what is said, evaluate it, if there’s some truth and you can change it, then do it; if it’s not true, you can let it go.
Are you driven by your fears, anxieties or worries? Are you driven by the positives, strengths or the fun? Are you motivated internally or externally?
Whatever motivates you can help or hurt you. If you are someone who is driven by fears or worries, then you may be adding MORE fears and anxieties in your life. It’s the same with the opposite way: if you are motivated by the positives then you will have more of the positives.
To identify what you are driven by, ask yourself some questions: Am I driven when I am given a reward? Am I driven when I am mad at someone and then I want to do better to show them what I can do? Am I a self-motivator?
I believe we can all identify with some of these questions and can identify with some of the way at a particular point in our lives. If you don’t like how you are driven, especiallly if it’s by a negative way, then you can learn to be driven in a more positive way, it takes practice and repetition. You can do it!
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Everyone has a voice that they listen to. I am not saying we are all crazy, but we do have an unconscious voice that we listen to that tell us we can do something, we can’t do something, we are stupid, what we should or should not feel at a moment and what we are good or not good at. Sometimes our unconscious says that we are smart, fat, worried, mad, anger, no good, ugly, or even better than everyone else. These are some examples, because we can listen to a lot more, it may depend on the environment that we grew up in.
Sometimes, we can say to ourselves: I will NEVER or I will ALWAYS, and what we say to ourselves, we can reinforce the negative and hurtful patterns that we either grew up with or started ourselves because of how we grew up.
I don’t mean to be confusing so I will close with this: Are you listening to the positive thoughts like: You can do great things, You are smart/beautiful/accepted or to the negatives: can’t do anything well at all/ugly/unaccepted?
What voice are you listening to? What we focus on can turn into reality.
What a man thinketh, so he is.
This is a funny thought, but I was wondering about it as I was walking my dogs this morning as I do every morning. Let’s see:
Dogs: need to be fed, bathed, learn how to potty in the right places, love to play in the dirt, crouch when they know they are in trouble and are always happy to see you when you come home.
Children: need to be fed, bathed, clothed, parents have to teach them how to do those things on their own, have to be potty trained (extra work may need to be involved), love to get messy (especially in nice clothes!), they hide when they are in trouble and are happy to see you (for the most part!)
There are some similarities between the two and by no means, I am saying that children are like dogs, but their behaviors are similar.
What do both need to have a happy and healthy lifestyle?
They both need: consistent discipline, “training” in following directions, being respectful, loved unconditionally, rewarded when doing something well, show who’s in charge, stability and daily exercise.
Applying the above will help provide a great start with both a child and a dog, of course, children may need some more work or different types of work to be a healthy adult, but both need YOU to be healthy in their lives and provide what they need.
Laughter is the best medicine! It relieves: stress, anxiety, depression, gets a person to focus away from their problems and helps them to feel good! It is said that children laugh about 20 times or more a day and adults laugh only about 9 times!! WOW!!! So,, let the kid inside come out and Play, Laugh and Live!
Watch a funny movie, read the comics, read a joke book, tickle yourself, listen to a laughing baby, make someone else laugh!! Go ahead,, Laugh at yourself!! You can pick up your problems tomorrow, they will still be there, but give your worrying mind a break and LAUGH!
