Author Archive for Kelly Sanders

Three ways to play with your spouse

Marriage is a multitude of things: bumpy, scary, difficult, fun, long, boring, and another bunch of adjectives that a person can give. Marriage and life together can be very stressful too, with kids, jobs, friends, economy and other life events that there is no control over.
Keeping a marriage together through difficult times can be [...]

How to have a happy divorce?

Divorce is a very difficult situation in everyone’s lives. It is very emotional, hurtful, takes a lot of time and effort and creates many changes in the lives of parents and children. There are many reasons why a couple divorces: finances, out of love, affairs, abuse, does not want to be married anymore.
Divorce does [...]

What does it mean when you say, “Okay”

This was pointed out to me by my supervisor when I was doing my internship for my licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist.
When you are saying, “Okay” after telling someone to do something, you are really asking if they want to do it or even permission.
For example, when you tell your child [...]

How to do abdominal breathing.

Breathing is the most natural thing a person can do. For whatever reason, when a person is anxious, scared or very angry, they “forget” to breathe which does not help the brain get the oxygen it needs to be able to think clearly.
Here are four simple steps:
1. Place one hand on your abdomen [...]

3 things to have your teenager to NOT listen to you!

Every parent wants their teenager to listen to them. Some of the ways that a parent goes about it produces the opposite affect. The three main ways are: nagging, insight and nagging.
Nagging, for a teen, is the ultimate turn off. Parents do not see it as nagging because parents have a great way to reframe [...]

Are you living to the fullest?

In the Bucket List with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, they both have cancer and have about a year to live. They write a list, the Bucket List, of what they want to do/accomplish or really live before they die.
I don’t think you have to wait til you are almost dying to actually live. [...]

What are Words of Wisdom?

Words of Wisdom can be from someone else’s experiences or just our own experiences. What things come to your mind that you have learned in your life? From other peoples’ lives? What experiences have you gone through that you can help others? What can you learn from your own past experiences that can help you [...]

How to build a strong marriage

You fell in love with the person that makes you very happy and want to be there for you forever. You get married. Marriage is a wonderful thing but it does take work. The “work” part is keeping the marriage strong when circumstances come and shake the marriage.
Protecting a marriage may be difficult if [...]

How to calm yourself and control your anxiety

Anxiety is normal. When you think of speaking in front of people, there’s some anxiety. When you need to take a test, there is anxiety. When we are not sure if a person will like us, there is anxiety. Anxiety can become overwhelming, when the anxiety is more in control of you than you in [...]

3 Things that Pushes a Husband Away

Marriage is a partnership. Two people came together, bringing all different sorts of wonderful and unique aspects into the marriage.
Each individual has their traits, personalities, frustration and limitations that are brought to the marriage. Combining the differences from the wife and husband can create a great marriage or a really difficult one.
Marriage is [...]